The man in the pink tutu
Have you ever heard the one about the man in the pink tutu? No? Well, a man in a pink tutu walks into a store and requests, “It.” Before the associate can decipher what it is, the man was sexually assaulted.
When officers inquire as to what happened, all witnesses say is, “Well, he was asking for it.”
Rape. Not a joke, right?
According to RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), on average, there are 321,500 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the United States. Realize that statistic is derived from that of victims that have come forward.
Every 98 seconds an American is sexually assaulted.
Students at Campbell County High School recognize that the problem exists here too.
“The school itself feels like a safe place, but some of the students make it hard to trust,” freshman Hope Victoria Hubbard said. “There is cat-calling in the halls and parking lot, but not much seems to be done about it. This has been happening since middle school though.”
A January 14th article entitled The Movement, written by Patrick Filbin of the Gillette News Record, reflects that the issue affects women at a younger age. Kristi David from the Gillette Abuse Refuge Foundation (GARF) said her client’s average age in the past six months has been 14.
To quote the same article: “It’s a cycle. A girl goes to a house party. She doesn’t tell her parents because she’s not supposed to be there in the first place. She’s drinking alcohol, also a no-no. Then she’s assaulted,” David said.
“Women shouldn’t have to be afraid, but they are,” junior Sage Holland said. “The sad reality is that every girl needs to take all precautions, even when they should feel safe.”
Instead of needing to teach girls to say carry pepper spray, not to drink, to travel in groups, not to trust men, not to put their hair up, not to be alone past dark, to be polite, but not too polite, to wear more clothing, to take self-defense classes, to keep their heads down…we should be teaching simple respect for another human being.
“The saying Boys will be boys has been used as a justification since we were in diapers,” sophomore Christian Cabral said. “It’s all a slow progression from there to the bigger issue: Rape culture.”
Rape culture comes down to the way we as a society collectively think of rape. More often than not, it’s situations in which sexual assault, rape, and general violence are ignored, trivialized, normalized, or made into jokes.
And this happens a lot.
All the time.
“When I think of the word rape, my mind always goes to some guy in a back alley with no self hygiene,” senior Gage Bainter said. “But I know that isn’t always the case. Most of the time it seems to be someone that could be trusted and that rape can happen to anyone.”
Male, female, gay, lesbian, bisexual or even transgender. The fact of the matter is that anyone can be sexually assaulted.
“As men, we’ve been morally brushed away because we’re meant to be strong individuals,” senior Brendan Cates stated. “However, men are victims too.”
Without a sense of safety, how are more people, all genders alike, expected to be able to come forward with their experiences? A drastic culture alteration is what needs to occur because…
Rape culture is when abstinence is valued over consent.
Rape culture is when a girl is told to change her outfit.
Rape culture is when people think consent to drinking is consent to everything else.
Rape culture is when privilege and popularity equals an excuse.
Rape culture is when people deny or make fun of the fact that men can also be victims of sexual violence.
Rape culture is when songs like Blurred Lines are sung by children, families, and played on radio stations consistently.
Rape culture is when the first response to hearing a victim’s story is to look for reasons the victim might be exaggerating.
Rape culture is when a bar names a drink Date Grape Koolaid and then mocks rape survivors for objecting.
Rape culture is when non-consensual sex is even labeled as sex. It’s not sex. That’s rape.
Rape is the real problem that needs to be confronted.
Now, back to the original question, what exactly was “it” the man in the pink tutu was asking for?